Perhaps some do's and don'ts will help.
Do's
- Find a church with a passion for saving the lost. Luke 19:10 says Jesus "came to seek and to save the lost." Therefore, decide you "must have" a church with a passion for souls---locally and globally.
- Find a church with a passion for worship. John 4:24 says God is seeking people who worship Him "in spirit and in truth." Some churches worship with all their minds...but their hearts are far from Him. Other churches worship the Lord with all their hearts, but they disregard the call for orderly worship. Seek the balance of both spirit and truth.
- Find a church where the Word of God is preached without apology. 2 Timothy 4:2 says, "Preach the Word." Bring your Bible, and watch if others bring their Bibles. And, of course, make sure the preacher has one.
- Find a church that depends on God in prayer. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 says, "Pray without ceasing." The church that prays models humility. God receives the glory as the church matures and grows in answer to the prayers of many.
- Don't fool yourself into believing there is a perfect church out there. There isn't. And if there was, you would probably ruin it.
- Don't think of yourself as a consumer, looking to "get" a lot out of a church. Don't be a cow going from church to church eating up resources. Find a church where you can work hard and give sacrificially to further God's mission---the church where you will make maximum impact.
- Don't allow a pet theological issue to narrow your options. It is not wise to make one area of doctrine THE most important thing on your list. Of course you want to find good, solid, conservative doctrine in a church, but many believers wander as orphans, unwilling to plug into a church unless it shares in their militant obsession over one issue. This is unfortunate.
- Don't give up! It shouldn't take longer than 4 months to survey your options and get the facts. Once you know what is out there, get in the game! Fully involve yourself in the community of believers.
Here are 2 links to a 4 part series on "How to Choose a Church."
http://www.harvestpalos.com/BlogArchive.aspx?blog_id=178277&year=2009&month=9
http://www.harvestpalos.com/BlogArchive.aspx?blog_id=178277&year=2009&month=10